Crocuses in the Mud
After a happy, turbo-charged few months, I’ve found myself in a bit of a slump. I feel dull, out of profundities, and very in touch with mortality. A couple people [...]
Three Cheers for Incompetence
Maybe you are familiar with the model that outlines four stages of learning: Unconscious incompetence: I don’t know what I don’t know Conscious incompetence: I’m trying to learn, and it’s [...]
There Is No Recipe
I was with a leader yesterday who’s making some big decisions. They are struggling with feeling like a failure. After years of investment in their work, it’s clear things are [...]
This Gift Won’t Cost You Any Money
After all my years of working with groups and coaching leaders, there’s something that remains astonishingly rare—good listening skills. I realized several years ago that I was a crappy noticer. [...]
What Kind of Emotional Wake Do You Leave?
One of the most impactful things I’ve heard in the last several years is Jill Bolte Taylor talking about the stroke that left her without language for many months. She [...]
Can You Find Some Wiggle Room?
I’m reminded again this week that life is short. Someone else in my orbit passed away suddenly. We weren’t in one another’s close circles but have mutually admired one another [...]
Training Isn’t the Answer
It has been a really sad week. There’s nothing I’m going to say here that hasn’t been said, and I’m under no delusion that the national conversation needs my voice. [...]
The Time for Repair is Now
I recently heard that a former one-time client of mine passed away, someone who had come to my office with a relative for mediation. Halfway into our time together, it [...]
Hearing Yourself Again
Hello friends! I have a proposal for you: as 2023 begins, can you slip away for a little bit? Can you find a quiet place and a quiet few hours [...]
Fun in 2023
Maybe I’m just paying more attention this year but is anyone else sick of New Year’s resolutions talk?! NPR says to set SMART goals--strategic, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound. They [...]