No Grand Gestures
I’m going to be a real scrooge here for a minute and say that I dislike many videos, memes, and social media stories that highlight grand gestures. Heroic, expensive, time-intensive [...]
What phase is this?
I listened to this funny takedown of the popular book Atomic Habits recently, and it was such a RELIEF to get out of the self-improvement trap for a few minutes, [...]
Training Isn’t the Answer
It has been a really sad week. There’s nothing I’m going to say here that hasn’t been said, and I’m under no delusion that the national conversation needs my voice. [...]
The Time for Repair is Now
I recently heard that a former one-time client of mine passed away, someone who had come to my office with a relative for mediation. Halfway into our time together, it [...]
Wake-Up Call
Recently I listened to Rob Bell on this podcast, talking about a concussion he got while surfing. I had wondered why he’d been so quiet lately. Turns out, his accident [...]
Stressless Holidays are a Fantasy
My dad and brother-in-law work with unhoused people, and they tell me those precious souls don’t like the holidays. This season highlights all the ways their lives are not the [...]
Eight kinds of time
Sometimes my husband says to me, “You need to go on a walk. Now.” He is familiar with my “Eight Kinds of Time,” and can sense when one of them [...]
Too Soon to Tell
My smart son is taking an evolutionary ecology class, and he told me something extraordinary on the phone last night. A small animal—let’s say a marmot—will risk making a noise [...]
A Blessing for Times of Change
Hello friends! I’m back from my August break, and have logged glorious hours biking, swimming, sleeping in, painting, hanging out with friends, and blessedly not listening to any self-help podcasts [...]
Become a Professional Appreciator
Recently, I went to my favorite place, Café Blue, to do a little journaling and painting. Standing in my closet that morning, I took care to pick an outfit because [...]