Adult Friendships: Tidal Rhythms
I had a delightful phone call with my friend Katie this week, and we found ourselves returning to a favorite subject—making and keeping friends. I realized again how much I [...]
Empty Nesting and Other Changes
My daughter graduates from high school in two weeks, and we take her to college in a couple months. Having gone through this once with my son, I thought I [...]
Bonus Day
One of my spiritual teachers recently said, “Disappointment is the chariot of the dharma.” Mic drop! I understand this to mean we learn the most when we learn to be [...]
No Grand Gestures
I’m going to be a real scrooge here for a minute and say that I dislike many videos, memes, and social media stories that highlight grand gestures. Heroic, expensive, time-intensive [...]
What phase is this?
I listened to this funny takedown of the popular book Atomic Habits recently, and it was such a RELIEF to get out of the self-improvement trap for a few minutes, [...]
Training Isn’t the Answer
It has been a really sad week. There’s nothing I’m going to say here that hasn’t been said, and I’m under no delusion that the national conversation needs my voice. [...]
The Time for Repair is Now
I recently heard that a former one-time client of mine passed away, someone who had come to my office with a relative for mediation. Halfway into our time together, it [...]
Wake-Up Call
Recently I listened to Rob Bell on this podcast, talking about a concussion he got while surfing. I had wondered why he’d been so quiet lately. Turns out, his accident [...]
Stressless Holidays are a Fantasy
My dad and brother-in-law work with unhoused people, and they tell me those precious souls don’t like the holidays. This season highlights all the ways their lives are not the [...]
Eight kinds of time
Sometimes my husband says to me, “You need to go on a walk. Now.” He is familiar with my “Eight Kinds of Time,” and can sense when one of them [...]