No Emptiness, No Fullness
Yesterday, I really wanted to go to Downtown Sounds (free local concert), but I didn’t want to go by myself. My partner was working, my daughter was gone. I could [...]
Intermittent Recovery
I’m fascinated by this tidbit from an HBR article on energy management: “Without intermittent recovery, we’re not physiologically capable of sustaining highly positive emotions for long periods.” If you’re working [...]
Don’t Clear the Decks
One of the most impactful books I’ve read in the last 5 years is Oliver Burkeman’s Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals. You can download some tidbits from it [...]
Lessons from my 50th Birthday
I turned 50 a few days ago, and the event felt like a joyful project. I’ve struggled with my birthday in my adult life—not planning anything, and then regretting it. [...]
Fierce with Reality
Yesterday I had the extreme honor of hosting a virtual retirement party for my friend, colleague, and mentor Pat Vivan. Hearing the impact she has made in the lives of [...]
Walk With Me Awhile
In Parker Palmer’s book On the Brink of Everything, he says, “When I’m asked for the ‘elevator speech’ that sums up my work, I always respond, ‘I always take the stairs, [...]
The Need Brings in What is Needed
Oh boy. Two weeks ago in my newsletter I shared that I’d been feeling low and expressed gratitude for ways clients and friends had buoyed me. And then a tsunami [...]
Don’t Wait for a Funeral
One of the things I’ve been preaching to clients for years is, “Don’t wait until a funeral or retirement party to talk about why you like someone.” And then I [...]
Made to Connect and Create
My friend and colleague Nicki Lang and I facilitated our “Cultivating Creativity” retreat last weekend on Hood Canal—20 adults of all genders coming together to create community and art. We [...]
Keeping it Simple
In a sitcom I’ve been watching, there’s a scene where a millennial is trying to comfort a Baby Boomer after the loss of a parent. The millennial walks up to [...]