Ambivalence is a Drag
In Priya Parker’s excellent newsletter this week, she talks about the “Art of Guesting” during the holidays, and how to be in discernment about what we say yes and no [...]
Celebrating Truthsgiving
Hello, friends. I’ve got a longer reflection this week, and I hope you’ll hang in there for it. For the past several years, I have grown increasingly uncomfortable celebrating Thanksgiving. [...]
Stressless Holidays are a Fantasy
My dad and brother-in-law work with unhoused people, and they tell me those precious souls don’t like the holidays. This season highlights all the ways their lives are not the [...]
Unsubscribes and Other Gifts of Rejection
I want people to love me. More than that, I want them to like me. I want them to think I’m funny, smart, helpful, wise, kind, intuitive, quick-witted. I want [...]
Worth the Work
After a lot of planning, my client and I facilitated a big gathering yesterday, bringing board and staff members of a local non-profit together. We had several rounds of [...]
The Heart of the Matter
I was around a leader recently who didn’t seem to have come home to themself. They were smart and polite, but I thought to myself, “I wouldn’t want to follow [...]
The Promise of a Team
I was with a non-profit board last week that made me jealous. I love all my clients, but I’ve definitely encountered groups that don’t spark the same sentiment. I diligently [...]
Borrow some Energy
I have lived in my house for 11 years and never liked our living room. With an awkward space, ill-fitting furniture, pets, and my underdeveloped design sense, it just never [...]
A Late Summer Benediction
None of it Lasts When my children were young and the days were so intense or intensely boring, I used to remind myself, “Everything changes. If it’s an easy phase, [...]
A Blessing for Times of Change
Hello friends! I’m back from my August break, and have logged glorious hours biking, swimming, sleeping in, painting, hanging out with friends, and blessedly not listening to any self-help podcasts [...]