May You Have Friendship
You can have self-esteem, stability, and an uncluttered mind. You can have success, purpose, and physical health. But without friendship? It’s all a little empty. We have all seen the [...]
You Can’t Download Someone Else’s Program
If you’ve been reading along for any length of time, you know that I’m obsessed with living a good life. And with the idea that happiness isn’t something we get [...]
Happiness is Hard
I’m back from my August idyll. I read 19 books, went to Lummi, Orcas, Lopez, and Vancouver Islands, purged a bunch of things from my house, swam as much as [...]
A Recipe for Civic Engagement
I’ve perpetually suffered under the idea that I’m not doing enough to make the world a better place. Whether or not this is true, it’s caused me a lot of [...]
In Praise of the Slow Burn
I was telling a client today that I’m liable to fall in love with people. I’ve had many friendships in my life that started with a bang. I loved their [...]
Frequency, Vulnerability, Proximity
Happy Summer, friends! As threatened, I’m continuing my occasional series on adult friendships. I forget where I heard these three essential friendship elements: frequency, proximity, and vulnerability. But I’ve been [...]
Adult Friendships: Tidal Rhythms
I had a delightful phone call with my friend Katie this week, and we found ourselves returning to a favorite subject—making and keeping friends. I realized again how much I [...]
Showing up is Powerful
Guess what? I’m going to talk about graduation again! We had my daughter’s graduation open house last weekend. It poured rain, we all crowded around the kitchen island, and I [...]
Legacy is Overrated
I’m inspired by Bill Gates’ announcement that his foundation will shut its doors in 20 years. He says, “There are too many urgent problems to solve for me to hold [...]
Empty Nesting and Other Changes
My daughter graduates from high school in two weeks, and we take her to college in a couple months. Having gone through this once with my son, I thought I [...]